My wife and me

My wife and I have decided to split up. Maybe for some readers out there who knows us it will come as a shock, or then again perhaps not. We’ve been together for over 20 years, married for eight and have two children, an eight-year-old daughter and a son, 6. On the surface it looks as though we have a loving and happy relationship and we do; we have a lot in common with each other, share the same interests in many areas and have been an inspiration and each other’s guiding lights. But we’ve been through a lot of shit and trauma in our lives as we struggled to realise our true potential. At times it brought us closer together and on other occasions the pressure has almost tore us apart. The pressures have been primarily financial but we both have unresolved personal issues, there are areas of our relationship which are just not compatible and we have both come to realise they never will be. We both have not been happy for some time, it’s been tough since I came back from Hong Kong two years ago, but we have tried to make it work, but it’s just not happening. We both care about the children and want the best for them but if they can see or sense we’re not happy then it is going to affect them and we don’t want them to see us bickering or arguing or not getting on if we stay together.

The truth is the love has gone, we don’t love each other anymore. There is no passion, excitement or fun in the relationship anymore. We still get on and I think we always will, we’ve been through too much together and there will always remain a strong bond between us. My wife is a very spiritual and compassionate person, is caring a wonderful mother and a talented artist. She is honest and caring and is a wonderful mother to our children. At times I feel I just don’t measure up and in many ways I am her exact opposite. She is also a strong person and is prepared to do things on her own, in her own way. She says life is a journey and we have to be true to the Self. We have come to the end of our journey together and now it is time to part, we both agree and there is no bitterness or anger, a great deal of sadness, but deep down we both realise it is for the best, for both our sakes and the children’s.